7 Steps To Improve Your Self-Esteem - For Success
by Sta'cii Blake
Throughout my life, I have been told by my parents, never hold my head down. Honestly, I didn't understand how they expect me to go around 'acting' like everything was fine when its not. Every time I felt a lack of confidence or self-esteem, I lost precious time second-guessing my next step and feeling sorry for myself. We tend to be our own harshest critics and that’s why I learned that improving my self-esteem and regaining my confidence must be a priority if I want to succeed.
I think the importance of positive self esteem cannot be underestimated. It affects your behaviour and thoughts. It changes how you feel about and value yourself and others.
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Why Should Self Esteem Matter to You?
Self esteem can be the difference between success and failure
Esteem affects your thinking, causing your outlook to be positive or negative
Esteem affects your confidence
It affects your self image
If you do not value yourself how will you be able to value others?
Self esteem enables you to have the right attitude to succeed at work
It affects your happiness
Last but not least, my favorite, it affects your psychophysiological well-being.
But how do you improve self-esteem in a practical way?
I would like to share 7 Steps of the most powerful habits I have found for improving and maintaining my own self-esteem. Even through the rough days and others tough face, lol.
1. Be mindful.
We can’t change something if we don’t recognize that there is something to change. Be aware of judgemental self-assesments - not holding onto those thought allows them to dissipate. Without this awareness, we can easily fall into the trap of believing our self-limiting talk, and as psychotherapist Dr. Heyes says, “Replace negative thoughts with neutral ones, simply report observations, not judge yourself.”
2. Change your narrative.
We all have a story or narrative we’ve created about ourselves that shapes our self-perceptions, upon which our core self-image is based. If we want to change that narrative, we have to understand the root of the narration. “Sometimes automatic negative thoughts like‘you’re lazy’ or ‘you’re fat’ can be repeated in your mind so often that you start to believe they are true,” says Jessica Koblenz, Psy.D. “These thoughts are learned, which means they can be unlearned. You can start with affirmations. What do you wish you believed about yourself? Repeat these phrases to yourself every day."
3. Handle mistakes and failures in a more positive way.
If you go outside of your comfort zone, if you try to accomplish anything that is truly meaningful then you will stumble and fall along the way - and that's just life, period.
Talking about failure inevitably brings the topic of giving up. Many would say that failing is not a failure, giving up is the real failure. Yes, yes, yes, this is true. You give up too soon, you learn nothing. So remember that. And when you stumble try this:
Be your own best friend.
Find the upside. Another way to be more constructive in this kind of situation is to focus on optimism and opportunities.
4. Stop comparing Yourself to others
I think the most single powerful thing modern-humans have is the ability to be creative, imaginative and unique. Each and every person have their own personality-characteristics that are shaped by the environment or culture. I also emphasis that just because someone else appears happy on social media, or even in person, doesn’t mean they are happy. Comparisons only lead to negative self-talk, which leads to anxiety and stress.
The health benefits of regular exercise and physical activity are hard to ignore. Everyone benefits from exercise, regardless of age, sex or physical ability. “Exercising creates empowerment both physical and mental,” says Debbie Mandel, author of Addicted to Stress, Other forms of self-care, such as proper nutrition and sufficient sleep, have also been shown to have positive effects on one’s self-perception.
6. Experiment with Fashion
Your style and the clothes you choose reflect and affect your mood, health, and overall confidence. Scientists call this phenomenon “enclothed cognition”. Understanding the psychological dynamics of why the right-for-us clothing can contribute to our confidence, raise our self esteem, and help propel us in the workplace. Try different types of looks not just with your personal fashion, but also with your hair. It may seem minor, but it is good to try out different styles to see what fits best for you.
Do not forget to contact a personal stylist for direction
Sometimes getting off on the right foot when it comes to your fashion and personal style, will do wonders to kickstart your journey to a happier you and a better self-image overall. Knowing where to start may be difficult, so if you find yourself at a loss for what to do next as you try out different styles, it can be helpful to contact a personal stylist to help you create that personalized style that will bring you confidence in everything you do in life. Image, style, and branding consultants are hired by everyone from celebrities to the average Lisa.
7. Remember the whys of high self-esteem.
What is a simple way to stay consistent with doing something? As mentioned above: to remember the most important reasons why you are doing it.
So, remind yourself of the whys at the start of this article to help yourself to stay motivated to work on your self-esteem and to make it an essential priority.
Embrace yourself through fashion. I would like to know ways in which you experiment with your own unique style and fashion? Comment below!
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